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November 2009 
What's the longest relationship you've been in?
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most of my romantic relationships have lasted 2 years or better. the longest being 11 years. my current relationship has been 5 years (and counting). but ive had friendships that have been for over 20 years. my sister (not real of course) angela and i met when we were youngster living in naval housing in alameda.
i was 10 years old, skating up and down the block. it was summer time and most of my friends were somewhere else in the world, or not close enough for us to hang out. she had just moved in and was sitting on her porch watch the world go by. i must have skated past her 10 or 15 times before we spoke. eventually, we connected. she went and got her skates and we skated together, doing races, tricks, and buddy skate. very nice memory.
i have another friend who i met during middle school. she and i had to walk the 7 miles to school and one day happened to be rounding the corner towards the housing complex at the same time, singing the same song... (any one remember spread my wings by troop???) we sounded good together and walked the rest of the way home singing songs and laughing about who was cute, who was not, who was our favorites.
i met the gentleman from my longest relationship at work. i was 18, just graduated, and got a job at a high end men's clothing store. i was getting off of work when he walked in, very cocky and kind of silly. it was cute. he demanded (and i use that word loosely) that i be the one to assist him. i laughed and passed him on to someone else and continued waiting for my ride to pick me up. he left, then returned, asking me to meet him for a coffee and chat. that day ended up being the longest connection i have ever had with a man. we are still close to this day...
i think the best thing about all these relationships were the way they began. we all seemed open (enough) to actually touch one another without fear, need, or hidden motives. it is nice when we meet another who simply wants to be with you... and not take anything away from that. very loving these relationships... strong and loving.
my current relationship is simply the best connection ive ever made to another person without trying... i am simply being charetta with him... its refreshing and appreciated
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I am glad you are happy and that you can be yourself with
this person.
That is a dream of mine too -although I guess I had to learn to be
me first!
I have had 2 marriages -I am totally over being bossed around
and living with such negativity it has been unbelievable!
I think I could have been a high achiever had I had love and support!
It is nice to know you and there are similarities between us -
one of them is my Best friend is my daughter Angela!
i'm learning to be best friends with my daughter symmone. she is quite a feisty scorpian with alot of fear about who she is. having said that, there is a lot of courage in that little soul. i often think about how strong she is versus myself at her age. she is light years ahead of me.
i agree with you about the bossing part. sometimes men forget that they didn't come out of the womb with you so they shouldn't demand you subscribe to their way of being. i'm fortunate that those days are over. i think my husband knows that he doesn't always know which way to go. sometimes he must sit back and ride instead of driving.
when he forgets, the universe always gives little reminders to let him know it is so.
i can't imagine you not being YOU! i've always felt strength in your words. i'm glad to know you are with yourself fully and are moving… you have my love and support.